I recently met my cousins but was most excited to see my elder sister after almost a decade. She turned 34 a day before. She is one of the most understanding people I know. And by understanding I mean, a good listener, a person who understands what one must be feeling, and a constant supporter of her siblings.
She has had her fair share of struggles in her life. From losing her father at the age of 22 to looking after her ill mother, looking after her younger siblings, their education, her own job..you name it! Now that her siblings are all grown-up, and are all independent to take care of themselves, people are bothered about the elder Sister's marriage. People around her keep constantly asking her about her plans, as to when she is planning to get married. On the other hand, my sister seems to have no plans of getting married anytime soon. She's perfectly happy with her life, as she already has a lot on her plate. But people around her need to understand this, happy life doesn't mean getting married at the right age, or having kids, as neither of these won't assure lifelong happiness.
If someone is comfortable with his lifestyle or has a different ideology on a perfectly happy life, that's fine. There's a reason why people have their own opinion on a particular topic. Isn't having a well-paid job, a roof over your head, and two caring and responsible siblings enough to keep a person happy? What if, the person has had some bitter experiences from their past? In such cases, a marriage is just going to add so much trauma to the person's life. After all, you are not just marrying a person, but you are also signing up for a bunch of other new responsibilities in your life.
A girl who spent her early twenties worrying about her mother's medical bill, her siblings' school fees, and other monthly expenses, is now wishing to spend her thirties on her own terms and conditions. All she wants is to breathe, live her life to the fullest and worry less about her future, now that her siblings are earning for themselves.
Let's not decide what will make others happy or what should be done at a certain age. Live and let live. We all are on our own journeys and have our own timelines.
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